Why an unhealthy INTJ + an immature INFP = disaster?

OK, it's definitely not scientific method to generalise 2 types with only personal experience. What I am doing here is trying to explain my own story with theory about cognitive functions. All are my personal observations (Ni talks the most of time, Te add some minor points); I still believe no matter what types they are, 2 healthy people will make great relationship, either friendship or love.

First of all, why was the attraction at first? "N type" is always a comfort zone with both INTJ and INFP. The unhealthy INTJ with suppressed "Fi" was intrigued by INFP's very active "Fi". And she slowly let her "Fi" come out again. But that was exactly the point where their relationship failed, when the unhealthy INTJ fell into "Ni-Fi loop".

The INTJ trapped in a "Ni-Fi loop" became over-sensitive to "underlying meaning" of all what the INFP said. And get no extravert function interfered, she got blunt, overcritical - what the INFP hated the most. The INFP, on the other hand, has his own "Fi" overdeveloped; he only acted towards what he felt, without caring what other people felt.

The INTJ tried to fight against the "Ni-Fi loop" by using her own "Te", and she used it especially strongly towards the INFP because unconciously, her "Ni" told her he was the cause of her loop. But "Te" of the INFP was so underdeveloped that he was against all analytical solution.

The INTJ blamed the INFP to be an asshole, the INFP might have thought about the INTJ as a psycho.

And then, getting to know each other became both people's hardest experience. They ought to be souldmates, who challenge each other and change each other in a better way. But they are either unhealthy or immature, so they no longer see each other, even as friends.


For term of cognitive functions, please refer to
http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/16Types/16Types.cfm

Basic knowledge about INTJ

I am in a procrastination period so instead of explaining every single details, I would say "google yourself out".
Here are some useful resources I often refer to, but they are not for beginners to MBTI.
- For an overview of INTJ's characteristic
https://www.16personalities.com/intj-personality

- A youtube channel which I find much related to
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU97uAtGEqOUDTtpzEKqOzg

- A forum when you can meet a lot of other INTJs; if you read their post carefully, you will find their commons, which are typical INTJ
https://www.reddit.com/r/intj/

So why am I starting this blog? Though I mention "you", I doubt if there will be any viewers. I am writing as a therapy for my Ni-Fi loop, hearing that writing yourself down will be helpful. Let's see..